The Bookish Life of Nina Hill by Abbi Waxman

Thanks to the synopsis on the back of the book, I picked up The Bookish Life of Nina Hill by Abbi Waxman at an independent bookstore (the only place I’m willing to spend my book money these days). Basically, Nina is an introvert who works in a bookstore, but when she discovers that her birth father, whom she never met, is now dead and left her something in his will, she has to face a barrage of new family members. Since her father married and made children throughout his life, she has siblings old enough to be her parent, nieces and nephews her own age, and even great-nieces and nephews. It reminds me of Joe Fox’s family in the movie You’ve Got Mail.

Not only is Nina coerced into meeting her new family, but she’s got a very full planner: different book clubs ever week, films with friends, trivia nights, “do nothing” nights (which she will not cancel even though it’s “nothing”), and work. So when the captain of a rival trivia team seems kinda-sorta-maybe interested, Nina isn’t sure she has the emotional capacity to fit him into her introverted self who is only able to do what is scheduled to keep her from getting anxious or failing to leave her apartment.

There are a few things I loved about The Bookish Life of Nina Hill. Immediately was the writing. The wonderful omniscient narrator, who is witty, wonderful, surely female, and definitely a separate character watching over all the others, drew me in with the first two sentences: “Imagine you’re a bird. You can be any kind of bird, but those of you who’ve chosen ostrich or chicken are going to struggle to keep up.”

I loved this “talky” narrator guiding the story, dipping into Nina’s and trivia Tom’s heads when it suits, though she is not limited to the love birds. Much like the narrator of William Makepeace Thackeray’s Vanity Fair, the narrator talks to the reader. Waxman’s narrator notes that Nina is the “heroine of both her own life and the book you’re holding in your lovely hand.”

The narrator even riffs on the wild names white parents give their children in 2019, using Aubergine, Elephantine, and Salamander as examples. Basically, this narrator creates a wonderful world for readers to travel in, and I enjoyed every second under her guidance.

Secondly, I felt connected to Waxman’s depictions of anxiety as a mental health issue that dramatically affects people. We’ve all seen people chalk up their shortcomings to whatever mental health issue is relevant: ADD, ADHD, Autism (as Lou pointed out in the comments: “autism is a congenital neurological condition, not a mental health problem (though autistic people are more likely to develop mental health problems). People are born with it.” Thank you, Lou!), depression, OCD, etc. Doing so diminishes the struggles people truly diagnosed with a mental health issue go through. Nina feels people are “exhausting,” not in an impatient way, but in the way “leaving her apartment every morning was the turning over of a giant hourglass, the mental energy she’s stored up overnight eroding grain by grain.” If you’re not familiar with spoonies, Waxman gives a great analogy of how it feels to be an introvert with anxiety. When those bits of sand are gone, you are so done. I related hardcore to Nina, but I believe that my extrovert chums (hi, Jackie!) may learn what it’s like for those of us who turtle in and come off as rude — but really don’t want to.

Lastly, I was so thankful that this work of chick lit is more honest than fluffy. Nina hasn’t been celibate since that one time she lost her virginity in college. She and Tom are not “meet cute” people. Unlike Joe Fox in You’ve Got Mail, Tom isn’t manipulative, a stalker, nor does he take advantage of Nina. He’s still very much a dude-dude, nailing the sports questions at trivia and missing all of Nina’s book references in conversations. I didn’t finish the novel with a wad of floofiness in my heart, nor did the book feel chaste, ladylike, or saccharine to me.

Not ladylike example:

Nina tried to pull herself together. She’d been irritable all week. Either her period was coming or she had a brain tumor, and at that moment the tumor felt more appealing, which probably meant it was her period.

I read it quite fast, and I would be happy to read The Bookish Life of Nina Hill by Abbi Waxman again in the near future.


  1. I respect someone who refuses to cancel carefully scheduled “do nothing” time – I haven’t any nothing evenings lately, and I’m now shattered and remembering why they’re so important. While I don’t normally enjoy chick-lit type books, I am currently trying to start a book club with a friend who reads nothing but, so maybe this would be a good starting place for us.

    Tiny nitpick – autism is a congenital neurological condition, not a mental health problem (though autistic people are more likely to develop mental health problems). People are born with it. I only point it out because there are so many weird conspiracy theories about how people acquire autism, which will hopefully eventually die out as people realise it’s something you’re born with 🙂


    • Lou, I completely appreciate your note about autism. I’ll fix the wording above. What I was trying to say is that a lot of people struggle with some aspect of life just the littlest bit and then decide that it’s appropriate to self-diagnose.

      I would definitely recommend you use this book in your new book club. I found it highly likable, and I didn’t feel like the romance was the Number One Focus. I know that romance isn’t a genre you prefer. I hope you read and enjoy it and let me know about your new club!


  2. I don’t normally read in this genre but will likely read this one. It sounds cute. I am intrigued by the exhaustion by people part. As the only introvert in a family of extroverts, none of them get this. I could be a hermit in a cave with me kittens where me only guest is the first mate and people on the internet. Arrr!
    x The Captain


  3. Early authors ie. C17th often chatted directly to readers. It’s a fashion that went away for a while – replaced sometimes by stories framed as being told to some friends (e.g. Heart of Darkness). Maybe it’s making a comeback – it’s amusing when it’s done well.


  4. I started this on my Kindle but put it down. I’m glad yoh enjoyed it and I hope to get back to it soon. I think I was afraid it was going to turn to chick-lit and that’s why I put it down. I had in that category over the last few months and I rolled my eyes. Sounds like Nina is one to circle back to


    • I wrote a post a while back about why I’m not using then term literary fiction anymore, and I think Waxman’s book supports my claim that adding literary on to a genre means you’re trying to say “acceptable for me to read” genre fiction. Waxman’s book is fun and smart and not completely focused on romance or clothes or eating.


  5. Do nothing nights-what an idea! I think I’d really enjoy this book too, I love the sound of the narrator. I didn’t realize people lumped in autism with mental health problems, I thought it was obvious you were born with autism or you weren’t? Oh well, the more people we can educate, the better 🙂


  6. Great review! I apparently judged this one too quickly- I saw “bookish” in the title (bookish books are not my taste, I’m discovering) and thought it looked a bit TOO cute, but am very pleased to see that I might have been wrong about the fluffiness and perhaps should give this one a try after all! An honest story about an introvert that’s not a meet cute actually sounds right up my alley. Thanks for correcting my assumptions!


    • The cover screams girly chick lit. The book surprising doesn’t have this character with her “nose shoved in a book,” but she does make fun literary references. I also enjoyed watching her get to know her new family.

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      • This sounds like a textbook case of “Don’t Judge a Book by its Cover” (though I do think you can learn SOME things about a book based on its cover). I should check my library and give this one a chance!

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  7. As a general rule, I tend to avoid “bookish” books and so, based on the cover, I would have avoided this. But your review has made it sound very appealing.


  8. This sounds like a great read! I love the image of the hourglass – as a fellow introvert, I totally understand!
    Also, while I like the sound of the name Aubergine, Salamander??!!! Really?? Oh dear. I’m not sure which is worse – Salamander or Elephantine. Yikes.


    • She’s definitely making fun of the names, and I hear lots of people do it. The strange thing to me is that people don’t call out the fact that these “weird” names come from white parents, who have historically given people in the black community crap for have names that are too whatever. There’s this great section in The Hate U Give in which three black characters and one white character ask each other questions that they honestly want to know that answer to, and the white teen asks why they all have such wild names. One teen boy named says he knows three guys with the same name as his, but the white teen had never heard it.


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