Jackie B. at Death by Tsundoku and I planned to meet each other. We talked about it all summer. We got distracted. We didn’t compare calendars. Then we choose a weekend — we really did — but I started a new job and was immediately assigned to be at three events that same weekend. The Jackie B. & Melanie weekend got pushed back. But it finally happened . . .
And when you meet someone in real life, someone you’ve been book blogging and texting with for years, you learn that they are almost exactly who you thought they were. There are some things that I learned, though!
#1. Jackie has this amazing, full, room-filling laugh that makes me smile.
#2. Jackie can wear chunky high heels and walk around all day in them without complaining about her feet. “Walking” includes going up six flights of stairs.
#3. She has house, so when Jackie met her husband, she was a total catch and a full-blown grown up woman.
#4. In her kitchen nook, she has a shrine dedicated to Harry Potter, which includes several copies of the entire series. She also has the series at work, which she loans to co-workers.
#5. Stylin’ and profilin’. Jackie B. always looks cool in sweaters, dresses, and leggings. I brought a variety of hoodies. We didn’t match, but I love her.
#6. Jackie has a big floofy dog with a name that starts with a K. My brain could never get around her doggo’s name, so I called him goulash, which rhymed with his real good boy name.
#7. A percussionist through and through, Jackie plays drums on her steering wheel, which made me giggle. I’m married to a percussionist, and you better believe everything turns into a bongo at our house.
#8. Jackie “stops” at stop signs, but I figured we’re supposed to be afraid in October.
#9. In her basement, Jackie has a bunch of canned goods she made herself! I got to take some home. Pickles and pear butter, here I come.
#10. She eats Daikon radishes. I knew these were a thing, but also convinced myself they only existed in Super Mario Bros. 2.
I want to thank Jackie for inviting me into her home and showing me around the town. Also, huge shout out for picking up the slack when I forgot it was my husband’s birthday. I never would have gotten him a pie. I mean, pie? Who eats pie on their birthday?!
It sounds like you two had so much fun! I’m glad you were able to meet and spend time together!! Jackie has such a great blog too—very cool to see you got together! 😊
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Thanks, Sara! I’m happy to hear you follow Jackie, too. We were pumped to learn we live about 250 miles from each other. Have you ever met a blogger in real life? This was my first, but I know there are others in the adjacent states.
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That is so much fun!! It’s so exciting to find someone online who doesn’t live too far! I have yet to meet any other bloggers, sadly, but I have been lucky enough to meet friends I roleplayed with and met on tumblr through our mutual love of a fandom, so I can understand the joy. I hope it is your first of many meetings with both Jackie and other bloggers!
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My husband met people from a website called the “The Something Awful” forums when he moved to L.A. It’s easier to meet up with people when you live in a huge city. Where are you located? Are you in the U.S.?
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It’s just Something Awful, and the forums crew were called Goons. I went to Goon Meets. I met nerds from the interwebs. I was nerds from the interwebs. Still am. Haven’t been on the forums in years, however. I am sure they miss me.
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Thanks for all those necessary corrections, honey! 🤣
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That is so cool! It definitely is. I’m in the Philadelphia area, so I think that has helped me meet the people I’ve met. Even just more chance of discovering people nearby online since it’s so populated!
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True. I feel like I keep meeting small-press writers from Philly who are influenced by the manufacturing side of the city.
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Wow really? That’s very cool! It’s an interesting city (though I’m certainly biased), I wish I saw it more in books/media!
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You may wish to check out Dave Newmann and Lori Jakiela. Also check out poet Jim Daniels. His work is well-known (as much as contemporary poetry is well-known).
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Thank you for the recs! I will definitely give them a look!!
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What a great experience to meet someone you’ve gotten to know online. It sounds as though you had a fun, and learned a lot about each other, too. Thanks for sharing.
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Thanks for reading, Margot!
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I’m a big fan of Jackie so it is super cool that you two got to hang out!
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I’m glad you follow her, too. We were talking about how we don’t have that many book blogger friends in common. It’s weird how it can be hard to break into a new book blogger community and get someone to follow you back.
Also, I thought you were on hiatus!
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I was! And now I am not, possibly. It was three weeks or so – is that not long enough for a hiatus? 😉
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I would love to meet other bloggers!
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Where do you live?
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Cleveland Ohio
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Hey, that’s not far! And book blogger Amanda at Cover to Cover Mom lives right around there, too.
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Where do you live?
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South Bend, Indiana. Right up in the north west corner. I just checked; Cleveland is about 260 miles away from me.
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Yeah, maybe 2 1/2 hours by car. It takes me almost two hours to get to Sandusky which is by Toledo. That’s where Cedar Point is. I haven’t been there in 24 years, lol. Anyway, yeah I used to drive through there all the time when I lived in Minnesota in the 90’s.
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Google maps says 4 hours, so you must drive like a speed demon! 🤣
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Well it has been 20 years or so, so I could be miscalculating
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That’s okay 😊
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You sound (and look!) so cheerful since your job change. Glad you had a good time. I’ve met a couple of bloggers, it definitely adds to the friendships you develop on-line.
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I was telling Jackie that I know a lot of the Australian book bloggers meet up. Is it just the distance isn’t far?
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The distances are the same as in the US, but there are really only six or seven cities, so if there’s someone you’d like to meet there’s a fair chance you’ll be in their city or they’ll be in yours one day.
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Awww, nice! And as a ramblin’ man, I’m sure you get to hit up lots of people.
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How fantastic! I actually have never met a fellow blogger in person, but there are so many of you that I’d love to meet. Is that an actual quote from Daniel Radcliffe. I’m laughing/crying. I’m so glad you had a good time.
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I think it might be just because I’ve seen it so many times. Then again, that’s the trick they use for the internet to get you to believe things that aren’t real. “A meme said so!” California is so populated; there have to be other book bloggers near you! But how to find them….
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Me two cents is that I love both of yer blogs! Glad ye could meet up. I enjoyed all the Jackie facts. Arrr!
x The Captain
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Thanks! Are you in the Midwest? Maybe would could lower our anchors near you!
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The Atlantic waters be me home matey. There be no oceans in the midwest! Arrr!
x The Captain
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Me. I eat pie on my birthday. Multiple pies, this year. 🎉🎁🍰🍮 🤘😎👍
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That’s right. You got pie two times. And I took you to a brewery. You’re spoiled.
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OMG so cool!!! I don’t follow her blog regularly but clearly I need to start! And I loved Super Mario Bros 2, it was my fav. We purchased a console that plays those old nintendo games and sometimes I still play it. I haven’t since my second was born, but I plan on doing it again soon!
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The second Super Mario Bros. is super hard! There is this one spot I COULD NOT get past, so I quit playing. The funny thing is there is some odd history with that game. I think it was something like they created Super Mario Bros. 2 but decided it was too hard for American audiences, so they took this other game they were working on and inserted Mario into it. That’s why SMB2 is so weird and unlike his other games.
Yes, Jackie is fantastic and a great blog friend. You should totally follow her.
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You’re right that SMB2 is so weird, like flying radishes? They must have been high when they made it LOL
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How awesome is this post! It made me smile. I am so glad that you guys got to meet and hang out.Sounds like a fab weekend 🙂
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Thanks, Diana! Do you follow Jackie too?
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❤ ❤ ❤ I'm so glad you could come visit!!!! I keep thinking of all the things I still want to do with you. So. Eventually you'll have to come back. 😉 Also, obviously, I need to visit you at some point. Prepare yourself! XD
Strangely, I learned some things about myself from reading this post! Like I could be obsessed with heroin, so I think I'm doing all right for myself. Also, that I don't stop solidly at stop signs. Honestly, I had no idea! Oops.
I think that's a sign I've learned to chill out as I've gotten older. I'm such a stickler for rules. I barely go over the speed limit. Finally, any time I get sass from David I will be telling him what I catch I am with my full-grown-adult-house. 😉 Nailed it.
I also might or might not be stealing this post idea for my own blog. You have been warned! 😉
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Totally! We talked about doing 10 Things I Learned About (each other) posts for a nano-second in your kitchen. Then we were distracted by that metal guy singing “Let it Go.”
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Ah. You are correct! We totally did. Hahaha. This is why I need to write down everything. I cannot remember a darn thing to save my life, other than random Harry Potter trivia.
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Like who had the beardiest beard?
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Like, who was the Prefect who led the 1st year Griffyndors to their house on the first day of school. Or how many people neede dto help Bill Weasley wrangle a dragon and take him away. You know. Useless stuff like that.
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Another post to make me smile! I wish I could keep up better – you’re on fire over here.
I’m so glad you guys got to meet. I’ve met a few bloggers over the last couple of years. It’s so much fun, and you’re right, they have been pretty much as I imagined them to be. Actually, even better. 🙂
I think I “met” Jackie when she was hosting the Anne readalong a while ago (I have no sense of time in the book blogging world), but like with so many others, I haven’t kept up as well as I would like. I will have to tell my daughters about her shrine to HP – I think they’d take a trip all the way down there just to see it! Lol
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Yes! She and a blogger named Jane did the whole Anne of Green Gables series, I think last summer. Thank you for your compliments, Naomi. I’m glad you’re catching up on blog posts, because I’m always glad to hear from you.
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I’m so jealous you guys got to meet in real life!!! I can only imagine the fun & shenanigans that ensued 🙂
“#1. Jackie has this amazing, full, room-filling laugh that makes me smile.” I actually picture this for both of you. The “throw your head back” types of laughs.
A kitchen nook HP shrine?!?!?! Be still my heart!
I laughed when I read her post and found out you forgot that it was your husband’s birthday! How sweet that Jackie got a pie to celebrate. Who wants to eat cake on their birthday? So cliché!
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I totally wanted cake, lol. We had planned the weekend, but then I got called into work that weekend, so we rescheduled. All the shifting plans made me forget it was Nick’s day 😬
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